In her first “morsel” on the UnderstandMen.com website, Alison Armstrong asks “Have you written the Santas in your life yet?”

She continues “Like Santa Claus, men need us to tell them what we want. They can’t read minds and they don’t pick up on hints. They appreciate it laid out straight like the letters children send to the North Pole.”

In her next morsel Alison writes “Like Santa Claus, men want to make us happy. So make sure the items you write on your list will really light up your face.”

Speaking a man, I can’t emphasize enough the validity of the phrase “can’t read minds” and “don’t pick up on hints.” Every one of our Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women workshop includes a Sunday panel of men for responses to our participant’s questions. I can’t recall a panel in which one or more of the men didn’t exclaim “We can’t read your minds. Just tell us what would make you happy. That’s all we want to know.”

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